I think a lot of us (men & women both) fail to take into consideration when we meet some charming person who sweeps us off our feet....leading to a wildly exciting or at least significantly satisfying love affair, and then (if we "pull it off") a wedding--we fail to consider the possibility that the person we're so madly in love with just might not be the person we think we're in love with. I'm referring here to the type of person who is a Sociopath.
Most of us don't spend our leisure time reading about people who are mentally disturbed or socially so damaged that they cannot be related to on an emotional, or even an intellectual, level that we are accustomed to with most normal people.
Sociopaths are predators. Furthermore, they lack a conscience. All the rest of us develop a conscience fairly early in our lives -- certainly by the time we are 3 to 5 years old, if we are raised in a household where there is at least one fairly effective and loving parent.
Sociopaths can become a very cunning and effective con artist -- they can act like everybody else, display what appears to be affection, respect, fairness in play, and all the psychological traits of a normal conscience. But they are faking it--and they become manipulative, vindictive, abusive, and essentially hostile to others. But they act just like the rest of us, and they hide their vindictive behaviors and their meanness. They fake falling in love with a person to get close so they can do their greatest damage.
We can be totally destroyed by these people - financially, emotionally, even physically. But we don't often get a good, firm grounding in what this kind of social predator is--until the damage is done, and we're seeing a psychiatrist to resolve the issues and heal the wounds.
We may well have a sociopath in the White House - he certainly shows some of the traits. I recently finished reading Martha Stout, Ph.D., book, 'The Sociopath Next Door" and learned much from her. I'm going through a new book, "Donald Trump and His Assault on Truth" -- which includes a larger number of the lies he has told while serving as our president, and what he accomplished by putting forth these prevarications. Glenn Kessler, Salvador Rizzo, and Meg Kelly wrote and assembled this book.
It's a revelation that is both deeply informative and highly disturbing, but I think it's one we all need to read and consider before we head to the polls and consider re-electing Donald Trump on November 3rd. I certainly will not be voting for him.