Your observations strike a familiar chord for me... I was raised as a Catholic, but in my youth, I explored Middle Eastern religious dogma and philosophy -- then I branched out and explored a lot of other things that have little or no relationship to Christian dogma. Ultimately, I completed my education with degrees in Business, Journalism and Adult Training & Development. I minored in Psychology, so I got a good grounding in some of the science of thought we're all familiar with today. I came to a practical realization somewhere along the way..... First, as you know... as we all know... Jesus of Nazareth (his REAL name was Yeshua, by the way) ... lived a couple 1,000 years ago in the Middle East, in the land of Israel, where the Jews were overrun by the Romans, turned into slaves and murdered by the 100s... their religious centers and their Temple destroyed by the armies of Rome.
Secondly, there's a lot of religious speculation about whether Jesus was celibate all his life, or whether he likes girls (or God Forbid... Boys). Personally, I hold to the belief that Mary Magdalene was a very important part of Yeshua' s life... I think he was "normal" (in common heterosexual terms) .. he cared for Mary Magdalene...she was intelligent, feisty, and a "fighter"... she was a rebellious Hebrew, like Yeshua. I believe they were both normal, average Hebrews ... they had a warm and close relationship. 2,000 years ago, I think the people of the conquered Hebrew nation of Israel had similar values and orientations to our current social orientations -- (barring the obvious differences -- living in a primitive social system that was oppressed by Roman fascist domination).
My understanding of the Hebrew social values? -- They frowned on "otherwise-minded" folks ... didn't like "gay guys" .... but women were Second Class persons, so what they did and liked wasn't "significant" to Yeshua, or to the Hebrew Sanhedrin, those in the Hebrew priesthood. The Roman invaders simply treated them all as barbarian slaves... No Respect!
But I think Yeshua was a healthy, "normal" male ... aside from being oppressed because of his Slave status among the Romans, and his poverty -- he was born into the lower class, after all--born in a barn, living on the streets mostly. Finding happiness surely was difficult for him and other Jews in Israel at the time. The Romans and the Sanhedrin of the Hebrew religious hierarchy oppressed the common folk daily.
What does all of this have to do with American social values and customs in our world today? Not a whole heck of a lot, I'm sorry to say. And thus, we are faced with reformulating our own religious and moral values today.